For the last two months I conducted an experiment. I used tinder like usual, swiping right on girls I found attractive (above a 7) sent out my 1 super like a day and got matches.
However I did one thing different.
I DIDN’T MESSAGE THEM FIRST
I matched with quite a lot of girls over this 2 month period; all of these girls were in the 7-10 range in looks.
Now, my guess is that I am an 8 in looks, I’m 6 foot tall, in shape, good style, good hair/hair style and my photos on tinder have got me results in the past.
Also my past lays were with girls in the 7-9 range in looks with the occasional 10s so I’m guessing I’m around an 8 out of 10 in looks. So what happened?
MOST GIRLS DIDN’T MESSAGE ME FIRST
Only a few did, the rest just stayed as matches.
After a while the matches just stayed as matches or they unmatched me.
I’ve always wanted to do this experiment, my usual process is open every match I find attractive then have some small talk with her and then pitch the date.
Using that method I played the numbers game and screened out all the girls who aren’t sexually available and go on dates and have sex with girls from 1 out of 2 of those dates.
So my usual process of putting in the work got me laid regularly with different girls from tinder. But it takes work!
I was always curious to see if not putting in work would make me seem more “hard to get” and girls would message me first.
So I did that and it doesn’t work! And it’s not like I’m a guy that has nothing going for him in the looks department.
So what did we learn?
You have to keep putting in the work! Girls won’t pursue you! I can’t speak for a guy who is a 10 out of 10 in attractiveness/looks but for most guys you need to message her first on tinder.
Although women want equality I still think they want a guy who makes the first move and leads them through the process.
Guys out there will say “you need a more engaging bio” or “you need photos of you doing something interesting” or “you need to have a funny profile” but that’s bullshit
That’s clown game. Clown game might engage a girl in a stupid conversation but clown game isn’t sexy and won’t get you laid. Clown game will get you friends.
Looking attractive and putting in work on tinder will get you sex.
Read my other articles if you want to learn how to get laid.